Monday, June 30, 2008

Post anniversary, training and bali

Last week was my busy week as I am conducting training. Then during weekend we are on company trip to Bali. Today I am back in the office and feeling very tired. I should have just work from home today. Sigh…

Hubby will start to travel again next week, three weeks in total. That leaves me with nothing much to do during weekend. I’ll prolly bring the kids to sunway lagoon or travel to Singapore to my aunt house. I still don’t know yet. I fell so mundane today :(

I end up surfing internet all day long, reading blogs and current affairs in Malaysia. Trying to do some reading on BI but I guess my head is not really functioning well. I did some planning for my family trip. Just don’t know if that can be materialized either cos hubby is very tight with his current project.

Hurm maybe I update a bit on what happened during my anniversary day. We did celebrate this year. I met him in One U and we walk around to find each other a gift. He bought me an O* watch and I bought him a M* pen. We do a lot of catching up on what happened to each other life lately. We had dinner at sushi groove. It was really nice and we continue to chat until around 10 pm. We were thinking to watch a movie but nahh…we don’t have that energy during the courting time :p. Both of us feel very tired that we decided to retire.

It was good. The quality time spends and I just love his company. I think I have been blessed to have him as my hubby. He trusts my judgments almost all the time. ie: when I want to do girls thing like spa…facial… shopping. He knows that I will not overdo it. Despite all my nagging (I do nag), he still seems patience and calm. He didn’t leave the parenting and taking care of my two little kiddo by myself. I see people that their hubby just does their things. But not mine….which I feel very bless. They are things that we compromise…like stuff that I don’t like to do …he will do it …stuff that he doesn’t like to do…I’ll do for him.

I think I am still in my lovey dovey mood. Hubby just mentioned that he don’t know how to handle my lovey dovey mood hehe. Cos I will become clingy to him. He on the other hand will definitely be rimas haha. Just bear with me dear :)

Friday, June 20, 2008

Lazy and anniversarry

I am very lazy today. Can I announce today as my lazy day? Today is actually my anniversary. Rather than announce it as a lazy day maybe I can declare a public holiday for my anniversary. Hurm whatever…What I know for sure…I’ll be leaving office early today to celebrate the day with hubby.

Our marriage journey is pretty interesting. We made some financial mistake along the way but we get if fixed soon after that. Yeah the financial mistake was when we decided to move to USJ house. During my first pregnancy we decided to rent a house so that we don’t need to hop from one house to another (my parents or his parents). My parents offer his USJ house for us to stay temporarily. That time I was stationed in Cyberjaya and hubby in Menara Telekom. The house is actually rented to a group of bujang and all the way I think it makes more damage to the house. We take over the house, renovate a bit (with my parents help) and we furnish it even not all but we spend around 10k or more.

Soon we get Aariz and we are ready to move to the new house. I think we stayed for less than 6 months then hubby got a new job and that is where he was sent to Miri. They said it is for 3 months assignment. Soon the 3 months become 6. I tender my resignation to join another company. Then they start to offer me to work together with hubby in Miri. The house is left empty for a while and soon after we realize that is not a short term assignment…we rent out the house again. No luck cos the tenant run away after that. Then my father decided to sell the house. That time we just got married and to lose 10k unnecessarily for me is a financial mistake. On the good side, cos the house has been repaired and so called renovated. It’s easy to sell it off.

We got married and I got pregnant and we move to USJ house and soon after that we stayed in Miri. For 3 years…no joke. Who can predict that rite? Yeah so many things happening during that period, I conceive Fawwaz during one of the flight misfortune. We have to transit in KK for one night due to the bad weather. That is a scary flight experience. Luckily Aariz is not with us that time. But if he is…then Fawwaz is not here now :)

That is those days in Miri and all the USJ and whatever silly arrangement that we have. After Fawwaz delivery…and during the NZ assignment, that is where we grow our relationship. It becomes more stabil and we get to understand each other more. We value each other, we learn more about ourselves and our potential as good parents. He learns to be a husband and I learn to be a wife.

Now we are back in KL. We have been together for 5 years. Stronger I must say each day. I love you and I hope you love me too.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

The 5th anniversary

End of this week will mark 5 years of up and down our marriage. They are fun part, gaduh part, merajuk part, some scene, romantic one and most of it not so romantic one. Where all other couples can remember what they do or what they get for each of their anniversary, moi and hubby just don’t really remember any :D. I mean we can’t really point every each year what we really do and we don’t actually celebrate and have gifts for every each of it. Part of it is because of our work, sometime he will be far far away in I don’t know where land and most of time our budget is pretty tight.

I do remember we had a choc fondue for our first anniversary. Not a grand celebration as we just had our first born – abang. Second I think we both in Miri, where we dine in one of the dodgy but available hotel there. Third if I’m not mistaken, I was in KL or do we celebrate at the Italian restaurant in Miri? Hubby do you recall? Finally last year is where hubby in US, me in Perth and kids in NZ. The worst anniversary ever! They are no romantika things happening cos we merely just had our dinner and we have the kids around too. No exchange gift as well uhuk uhuk!

This year however, I’ll try to give a shot. Hurm we will have a romantic dinner just both of us (hehe I don’t know if we can even be romantic. Hubby is so annoying! Last week I brought him for a shoulder massage just both of us and he ends up annoyed me more!). We probably going to watch a live band together and sits comfortably with each other. I probably will buy him a gift and we’ll see if he’s going to buy me any.

Let see if we can materialize this. If not … waaaaaaa probably we both just don’t do romantic things.

Monday, June 16, 2008

I want !

I want i-phone, tag watch and Suzuki swift. I want to have bigger kitchen, with Electrolux hob, oven and hood. I want a facial package that can make my face luminous. I want a spa package to rejuvenate myself. I want …I want… and I want. The list could be longer and I am day dreaming day and night.

So honey bee. Which of my wish list can be granted? :)

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

I love her ...

I think everybody knows how a chatter box my kiddo is. Fawwaz is not too bad as we don’t really understand what he says yet. So we can pretend not to understand or divert him to other things. He will get cranky but that’s about it.

Abang on the other hand, is really testing everybody patience. With his why?. He is so curious to know every single thing. Some difficult question is like who is God? One day while watching the Friday khutbah, the imam is giving preach. Then he asked, is he God ? He understands that the person is doing a religious thing in a mosque. And as curious he is when only this imam does the talking while the rest obediently listening. Thank god my mom is there to help me out.

The other one fine day, we were watching Transformers just the two of us. This is his favorite’s movies that he can watch over and over again. While watching he says, I like the girl (the heroin). I just nodded. Then he says I like her tetek. I was so stunned with that statement. Luckily I am not just gone blank . You can’t say that abang…. It’s rude talking about other people private part. He looks at me and asks me why? And I start to explain to him. Why is rude and what he shouldn’t do and so and so. Which of course trigger more why!. After a while he said, ma, can I say I like her face or I like her ears. Hurm that sounds much better dear. That is OK.

I think I need to do more reading so that I can give better reasoning.

Monday, June 9, 2008

Green Car

Hubby bought his first car just few months before he got married to me. Yes he bought the car just because he wants to marry me I think: D. In the first place, he doesn’t need a car if he still bujang. One is because his motor kapcai still can do his good deeds. His office is near by his mum’s house and second….he has his loyal friend to bring him around.

After we got married, as mentioned we hoped from his house to my house. Either way, we actually use one car cos hubby will still go to the office with his motor kapcai. If we are staying at my mom’s house, I will drop him early in the morning at his mom’s house so that he can go to work. That is more fuel economical. Soon, when we start traveling he sells his car.

Practically we never own any car since then. My so called car has been passed to my sister. Whenever we are back to our hometown, I will choose any car at home to use for weekend. I think relatives and of course hubby family member’s thought we are being pampered enough just using my parent’s car….

This time round we are not so blesses to use any of the cars, so we need to buy ours. The feedback that we get:

Hubby’s mom : alhamdullilah..terkabul jugak doa mummy nak anak mummy ada kereta sendiri. Selama ni pinjam kereta bapak mertua la adik ipar la…hehe

Hubby’s dad : Tu kereta boy ke ? Kereta apa tu ? Hurm bagussss!

My uncle : Ni kereta bawak balik dari NZ ke? Bukan ? Habis beli dari sini ? Berapa duit muka ?

We actually didn’t really buy a big car… just a good second hand car. But people around seems very proud. Especially people from hubby sides. What people didn’t know, we actually has been paying almost the same amount of money to my parents when we don’t have any car. I figure out that people will looks us differently when we actually own stgh that is visible. I wonder if we move to our own house, what their reactions will be :)

Thursday, June 5, 2008

A lifestyle to maintain

I started my first job with a salary of 1970…and hubby started his with 2300 a month. We got married a year later, we both change our job and we get some increment. On top of the increment we get additional allowances that ease some of the burden. We move from his mom’s house to my mom’s house. Being a good child, we both help our parents by giving some amount of money. Yeah we are staying with them anyway…and we are married couple. Cannot show the ingratitude’s right.

With the increment money is still an issue. We travel quite far from home to the office. Hubby still rides his motor kapcai to work. I still use my parent’s car. We manage to save a little every month, and get insurance for each of us. Soon after that, we had Aariz. Expense goes up… and we really feel it. There are no such things of lifestyle for us. Everything lingers around the little boy. I remembered that I walk at ‘Annakku” stores, and they are offer of 300 for baby cot and stroller. I grab it…cos we don’t have that much to spend for graco or wat so not. Hehe, I feel terrible that time ..Imagine your society around are having a good lifestyle. And you not! Eating out to a fancy restaurant is usually not our option. Except if we are out with good friends, where they would like to eat at fancy restaurant. A part from that we try to become as moderate as we could. Although of course I do feel, why I can’t splurge like just the others. And I just be patient, so do hubby, I guess.

Since we got married, we treat our income as one income. Every end of the month, hubby will pull out spreadsheet, listing all the fixed and variable income. We allocate the money to the right bucket ie: jpa loan, mom’s money, bills, fuel for the month, basic expense for the months and such. And whatever remaining we save it. Rezeki from tuhan, every year we get an increment..and it always either his or mine, will be quite outstanding. We are stationed in Miri, soon after we get Aariz where everything is being paid. We both don’t have a car, a house or anything. So we keep em all, and only when we flyback to KL we splurge a bit, for us and our parents.
Then we were sent to NZ, for 1 ½ year assignment. We also live on allowances, which is around 2.5k a month. Of course everything else has been paid, the house, the bills and the cars. The money just for living allowances. And if we don’t convert, 100 dollars of groceries, is enough for one week and that includes all the chocolates, biscuits and whatever unnecessary. Add another 50 bucks for my baby Fawwaz milk and diaper…that is just bi-weekly.
Until early this year, where we finally decided, enough is enough and we want to be back in our backyard. Imagining that, how good it is to be back and how we could cope to be in KL once more. Get our own house and our own car by our name.

Little that I know, the inflation is here, and the price of everything goes up. Too long I think, I never spend hundreds..just for a simple groceries shopping. 300 ringgit just for my kids food, shampoo, shower gel, milk, cooking oil, fruit juice and yeah…just that!, 5 days, pro and fro, the fuel will be around 100 ringgit…hubby will be even worse, prolly around 120-150. Times by 4 weeks in a month, and also the tols…The same amount of money without conversion, I could live to the max back then….in NZ and also in Miri (no tol and everything is near). So much different if I earn 2.5k back in NZ and in Malaysia. Who are these people kidding saying that our price is cheaper than another country? Do you convert their money to our money? Then you are stupid as they are paid the same amount as what we been paid here and they can get a better lifestyle.

Is just that we are not 5 years ago, where we start with 1970 + 2300 a month. We still can breathe and be moderate still. What is another 5 years to be moderate….and never have a lifestyle. We probably meant not to have a lifestyle. What makes me think, I’m sure they are people around, that get paid around that, which what I had before, will they survive? Can they be moderate? Or they are just barely live their life? What are their kids been eating? Can they get the best for their kids? I don’t know. What I do know, thank god that I still not have that lifestyle to maintain. Just a lifestyle to live in moderate.

Monday, June 2, 2008


I just started my new job last week. Nothing much yet so I am pretty relaxed. We also trying to catch up with friends and family. Trying to find a new car and just last Friday we are proudly owner of a dark green car, which abang claim it was his. Not mama or papa’s car. This time round we are pretty sure to settle down here in our hometown. No more long term travel that is what has been agreed between us. We will see where our life is leading to in this few years time. For now hubby got a KL based project. As for me… overseas project but I will be stationed in Bukit Jalil.

Life has been pretty hectic. We are not settling yet. Just last week our shipment arrive and I need to rearrange the content of the boxes, getting out things that we must use and keep aside other stuff that is not necessary . Out of 22 boxes I manage to clear 12 of them and now left with 10 boxes waiting to be shifted once our new house is ready:). I have found a kindy for Aariz aka abang. Just a half day session so that he can continue his English communication skill and learn how to socialize. Abang is a bit bossy, so he really needs to be in his peer group environment to learn to give and take. Still in the midst of finding a maid, to help my parents around while taking care of my two cheeky monkeys.

We are getting used with the traffic and tols. For me it is still not bad cos I just need to drive along kesas highway. At least the traffic will just be because of the stupid design of kesas highway which is not too bad if I go out around 830 or 9 in the morning. Hubby need to go pretty early if he wants to reach the office early. Else he will go out around 830 as well just to wait all the traffic clear.

I have all my weekend booked. Since day one we arrive here wedding every weekend and this time round I will not missed my 2 good friends wedding. One is my very dear primary school friend, syura….I am happy for you!!!!. Second is my officemate from my first job which is actually my uni mate. But we are only get along when we met in our first company. Not to forget my hubby’s sister will get married this coming weekend. There goes my melaram session with my baju kurung that I kept for hurmmm prob few years haha.

More updates later…

The conclusions

(this entry shld be posted last month :D)

This is it…we have ship our stuff. Tomorrow ill be disconnected from the internet and flying out to Auckland. Wednesday we will be leaving New Zealand and return to our home country. The verdict… I love this country…but of course I love my own country more. If I’m given an option to be a permanent resident here, I’ll probably give a try.

Life here is pretty much relaxing. If not because of the project that we were in and also the culture and nature of our parent company, we probably can enjoy the truth relax lifestyle that the kiwi’s are having.
The place we are staying is a small oil town called New Plymouth. I call it a small town cos for me it’s really small. Once they are a case where a friend of my officemate lost his slr camera. The next few weeks he found his slr being sold in the cash converter. That explain how small the town is (or prob how stupid the thief).

Anyway the office is just 5-10 minutes away from where I live. Some of my officemate ride a bicycle to the office. The nursery/kindy is near to my office, 5 minutes walk. The kindy is very good I think. The kid’s love it…it has a large compound where they can choose to play indoor and outdoor. Plenty of toys and lot’s of activities. Here I even afford to go out during lunch to send them to the swimming class and return to the office in time. The swimming center is 5-10 minutes from the office.

Most of the mom’s here can opt to work part time. This is the best part that we hardly get this from our country. Even if we do get to work part time…I imagine we still reach home at 5 or 6 due to the traffic jam ….You can opt to work 3 days a week or 4 days a week. Or you can opt to work 9-3 everyday.

Cost of living is pretty much reasonable. The groceries is cheaper…(if we don’t convert). We spend around 100-150 a week including diapers and baby milk. I don’t know how my spending will be in KL. But im pretty much prepared for the worst.

Family wise, we learn to help each other and divide our chores and responsible. I feel more for my hubby and kids. I learn more individually…all the potential that I didn’t know I had. I cooked, I cleaned, I take care my 2 child by my own, I take care my hubby, I take care my self, I ironed and washed cloth…but sweeping, vacuum, mopping, cleaned the fish and chicken still my hubby chores. I don’t like to do yucky stuff haha. We actually grow and proudly can claim that we are independent now :D

On the other hand, I can’t really wait to go back home. One will be I miss my family and friends. I miss the social life that I have back there, the spa, massage, the food…. yummy and the dosage of my retail therapy. That of course Malaysia will still be the absolute winner.

Winter is approaching here….that is another reason that I must return to Malaysia. Bye bye New Zealand….till we meet again!